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Always consult your Doctor and/or Counsellor/ Psychotherapist if you have any of the problems or difficulties listed below.  This reading list is aimed to provide you with supplementary information so you can make the best decision or choices regarding help.  It should not be seen as a replacement to professional therapy.
 

 
 Topics:
  • Anger
  • Anxiety and Panic Attacks
  • Changes
  • Couples
  • Depression
  • Relationship Addiction
  • Self Healing
  • Sexual Problems
  • Surviving Sexual Abuse

 


Anger
Harbin T (2000) Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men - How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life: New York. Marlowe & Company.
Although this book is written for men I think it would be just as helpful for women. For anyone with an issue of uncontrolled anger in their life this book will be a lifeline. It explains why you may be feeling the way you do and provides some steps to help.

Anxiety and Panic Attacks
Bourne E.J. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook .USA New Harbinger Publications.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone suffering from any form of anxiety, panic, phobia or similar disorders. The information given is clear and precise and thought provoking. A comprehensive account with questionnaires if answered truthfully help you to understand that you have an illness which can be controlled.
 
Ingham C (2000) Panic Attacks: London. HarperCollins.
I think this is a very reassuring book for people that have had the trauma of suffering a panic attack. This book will explain what they are, why they happen and what you can do about them. I highly recommend this book.
 
Smail D (1997) Illusion & Reality: the meaning of anxiety. London. Constable.
There is something about this book that makes me refer to it again and again. Although there has been many books written since this one saying many of the same things. The way Smail explains anxiety and its causes really resonates with me. I think this would be very helpful for anyone suffering with anxiety.
 

Changes
Grabhorn L (2000) Excuse me, Your Life is Waiting: the astonishing power of positive feelings. London. Hodder and Stoughton.

If you are willing to put aside the zealous manner in which this book is written and focus on the ‘message’ it may be very helpful resource if you are feeling weighted down or bored by your life. The theme is ‘positive thinking’ but I feel the magic of this book is identifying how much of our thinking is rather negative. It talks of changing your thinking patterns to make money, I wouldn’t guarantee it but do think it may change your perspective.
 
Hauk P (1981) How to Stand Up for Yourself. London. Sheldon Press.
This is a simple yet very helpful useful little book (only 84 pages). When you have no idea how to assert yourself this book can give you a few ideas.
 
McGraw P (1999) Life Strategies: Doing What Works Doing What Matters. New York. Harperion.
When you have come to a standstill, bored or need to make changes then this book will help you evaluate different aspects of your past, beliefs and behavior. It is full of self assessments based on Dr Phil’s 10 Life Laws.
 

Couples
Grayson H (2003) Mindful Loving. 10 practices for creating deeper connections.
England. Penguin Books.
For people who may have problems sustaining relationship. Grayson sheds light on how couples make themselves miserable and how, by transforming their thoughts they can achieve mutual joy.

 

Hendrix.H. (1992) Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. USA. Perennial.
This book will explore aspects of your personality and will identify why we choose the partner we do. It is an excellent guide for any couple who know they want a lifetime commitment, want to understand each other and communicate effectively. This is definitely an excellent guide, but both partners would need to be as committed as the other to wanting to make the relationship work. There are several exercises at the end of the book which are invaluable and challenging. This is a very popular book which I recommend to couples who are having difficulties and are not sure what to do.

 
McGraw P (2007) Relationship Rescue: Repair Your Relationship Today. USA Vermilion.
This book will provide insight into the dynamics within your relationship. It does not give you quick fixes or advice. It helps you learn about you, your relationship and your partner. It is hard work and you have to be scrupulously honest but it can be worth it. I feel this would give you a good pre requisite for couple therapy.
 

Depression
Serran-Schreiber (2005) Healing without Freud or Prozac. London. Rodak International Ltd.
I loved this book, with advice and help that is invaluable to those suffering from depression. The author writes in an easy friendly manner, he approaches everything in an easily understood medical approach but also very sensible.
The author suggests several different theories/ ideas that will not only help you cope with depression but also life in general. This would be helpful to anyone with depression.

Wolpert L (2001) Malignant Sadness: the Anatomy of Depression. London. Faber and Faber.
This is a popular book as it gives an account of the author’s depression. Wolpert is a Professor of Biology and gives a good explaination of body. He gives an interesting account of his search for help and the facts about depression. Useful for anyone suffering with depression or working/ living with someone with depression.
 

Relationship Addiction
Norwood R (2004) Women Who Love Too Much. London Arrow Books.

A popular self help book, which I would recommend to all women, who seem unable to stop repeating unhealthy patterns of relating to men. The book explores the potential origins of these unhealthy patterns such as traumatic events in childhood, being raised in a dysfunctional family environment, where emotional needs are not met. The book is straight forward & easy to read. A chapter is dedicated to the steps necessary in gaining autonomy, empowerment, to change your relationship with men.
Melody P (3003) Facing Love Addiction: Giving yourself the power to change the way you love. New York. Harper & Collins.
For women that feel they are in and out of relationships with men that do everything to avoid commitment. A useful book as it identifies patterns in behavior.

Self Healing
Emery. M. (1999) The Intuitive Healer. New York. St Martin’s Griffin.
Begin the process of healing. There are exercises that will aid you to become more self aware of the mind and body connection. Helpful for people who are ill and want to seek self healing.

Sexual problems
Ford.V. (May 2005) Overcoming Sexual problems London.Robinson Publishing.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy treats disorders by changing patterns of behavior and thought that may be unhelpful. It is now internationally established as a key method of helping overcome longstanding and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. In this book experienced sex therapist Vicki Ford provides a guide to understanding sexual problems including impotence and loss of sexual desire, premature ejaculation and lack of orgasm. The book provides simple techniques based on cognitive behavioral therapy that can restore confidence and bring about a mutually satisfying and fulfilling sex life for both partners. How to overcome negative thinking The importance of relaxation and stress reduction techniques A self-help programme of practical exercises to develop responsiveness and understanding of your own body Specific techniques for particular problems Advice on further resources and professional help Practical, easy-to-use and comprehensive, Overcoming Sexual Problems provides real answers to common sexual difficulties.
 
Kalamis. C, Brennan.S. (2007) Women Without Sex: The Truth About Female Sexual Problems New Harbinger Publications
This book examines what can cause sexual problems for women - from impaired blood flow to hormonal damage. It suggests how women can seek help or help themselves through a variety of new and established techniques.


Surviving Sexual Abuse
Gil E, Mather C, Debye K, Wood J (2004) How Long Does It Hurt? A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families. London. Jossey Bass Social and Behavioral Science Series.
This book is targeted at both male and females and all ages. This book helps to explains things for other family members and friends to understand what their survivor is dealing with. I have recommended this book for anyone wanting an overview of salient issues surrounding this distressing subject.
 
Maltz W. (2001) The sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse. New York. Harper Collins.
This compassionate resource helps survivors to:
• Identify the sexual effects of sexual abuse.
• Eliminate negative sexual behavior and resolve specific problems
• Gain control over upsetting automatic reaction to touch and sex
• Develop a healthy sexual self-concept
I would recommend this book to anyone how is survivor of abuse or a partner to a survivor.